I myself am a perfectionist at least 80% of the time. Of course there are pros, but overall, it's just so taxing. Sure, you get good products from detailed criticisms, but when it extends to yourself, the benefits just fade away. To seek improvement is healthy, but when you beat yourself up day after day over your shortcomings, it's tiresome, miserable, and unhealthy. The thing is, people are just not meant to be perfect.
The concept of perfection comes in multiple forms. Something can be considered perfect when you're content with it, but the form that I'm discussing is absolute flawlessness. Ironically, these different concepts of perfection are actually opposites. It's accepting or even loving flaws versus seeking to eliminate every last one. The latter is taking self-criticism to the extreme.
Being a perfectionist towards yourself hurts your self esteem and results in unnecessary hardships. I myself know that you can't simply stop, but I'd like to offer some consolation to anyone who can't help but be painfully hard on themselves.
People aren't meant to be perfect. Shortcomings create roads, journeys. If you don't have anything to improve on, you have nowhere to go. If you absolutely and completely excel at everything, there is no room for growth. Having things to better is a good thing, because once you hit the top, you can only go down from there.
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